Online Dating Advice

For those who are married or had been married in the past, this is a familiar subject! We all start our relationship with romance, passion and flirtation; however at some point in time it sort of goes away fades in a sense, and sometimes for many couples it is hard to regain that sense back. The romance itself is the most wonderful and rewarding feeling when it comes to love and the relationship! Romance brings the best in both men and women. It makes the men more sensitive and creative, and makes women feel enchanting and fascinating!

Now…In the beginning of the relationship the romance really takes over, that it turns the dating part in to relationship. The relationship at times turns in to routine, and leaving no room for the romance. Now, when it comes to marriage, the romance may just be placed on the shelf right after the wedding. Although, many couples try to keep their romance going, even after they get married; having kids though unavoidably pushes the romance aside, replacing it with companionship and friendship…Although, both these traits are equally important in order to sustain the relationship; however the marriage cannot just run on them forever. Most of men and women need the balance of romance, marriage life and kids. Otherwise, the whole marital bliss becomes ordinary and generic.

Being married and having kids is a positive blessing for both men and women, it does define your boundaries and a life style, but does that mean we should forget the very essence of being together with your love partner? When you met your soul mate, your life partner, your love; you could not stay away from each other, you given each other compliments, gifts, went on romantic dates, attended multiple parties and family gatherings. Everything, at that moment, was about the two of you, and how much life and the light you brought in to each other’s life! The marriage and the kids, however, bring the couples closer, but evidently take away from the many wonderful and romantic moments you loved so much in the beginning! Should it all go away if your situation is changed? Yes, we do have to alter our life style, we should become more patient and responsible, as the life with kids brings upon these important demands. But, we should still allow ourselves to be the couples, the lovers, the men and the women as God intended us to be! The romance and passion will only enhance our relationship to the fullest!

Most of men and women, though, may agree that they need maintain the level of romance in their relationship; however many feel too tired, exhausted and busy to indulge in to any romantic activities. Still, there is a way to be and to have all of that, without affecting your family life. There are things like designating the night out with your husband, buying flowers for no reason for the wife, praising and complementing each other every day! These are the things that will make a big difference in the everyday relationship with your partner. It may seem small gesture to just to praise your spouse for something, or compliment their talents, or let them know how beautiful they look; but it can make a significant difference in the day of your partner! Let your partner know that he or she is just as special as the date you met!

If one parent takes care of the child or children most of the time; let them know what a great job they are doing, and how wonderful your children are because of that! You may ask what it has to do with the romance. And I will answer, that the positive emotions, compliments and praising goes a long way and does contribute in to your relationship with your spouse, and it makes the romance blossom as well!

Although, we identify the romance by the typical “cookie cutter” actions, such as flowers, cards and dinners, but there are a lot more goes in to the marriage as far as relationship goes. Both men and women should make an effort to keep sparks in the relationship, not just one person all the time. Doing things for each other, will confirm to another person that you are equally want to have a happy and interesting relationship, thus will make the marriage exciting and passionate!

Tanya Wiseman, Author