Online Dating Advice

In my recent research to find out how people meet at the launch places, I went to a hotel with some friends of mine. What I encountered was, the usual seen yet again, men are chatting separately, while sipping the drinks, and scanning and checking every one out. The women do the same thing, however much discreetly, and much more classy.

I looked around, and here we have younger generations late 20ties and early thirties, are by themselves just waiting for something to happen; and the guys who had been around, more like 40 and up are very comfortable to just ease their way to any women, primarily young (but of course).

Although, these guys seem nice, but the way they approach the ladies is very cheesy; the comments are very outdated and not so classy. You think they want to meet someone, but I guess they never learned about the dating etiquette.

The younger guys just mingling around, however not approaching the ladies. I asked some pretty good looking guys (in their early thirties), why they do not come up to the girls, and they responded: “We do not want to seem like those lame and cheese guys, by just coming up to the girls, and have sleazy conversations, we want to be approached by girls”; I said: “Wow, what ever happened to the “old fashion way”, where you approach the girls?” And they also said that there are no nice girls in these places, or anywhere for this matter.

In the other hand, the girls are more aggressive these days, so they do not mind to approach the guys! I think, this is because over the years the girls had to become stronger and take more initiative, in order to get and meet the guys.

So, both the guys and the girls feel kind of disappointed, that they can not meet anyone!

Since I came to this launch place with my over thirties friends, and they were anxious to meet someone, I attempted to play a matchmaker. I it’s always a little easier if you can approach someone in a nice and friendly way that plays a non-biased mitigation between the men and the women. It could just be some harmless conversation that can potentially lead to some people becoming interested in each other. My friends and other people I’ve met enjoyed calling me their “agent” for both parties. I ended up sort of bringing people together, allowing for the natural thing take place. I guess, I had to make some judgment about the man that I was meeting, but it seems like it worked! Noone felt uncomfortable or out of place; both men and women seemed receptive and open minded. And the outcome was pretty fantastic; some of the men and women ended up going on dates, some just ended up becoming friends. Whatever this “set up” brought to both parties, whether relationship or friendship, it was defiantly worth it!

So, my outlook on this whole meeting people thing is that there are many what I call “Quality People” out there; they just need to be discovered.

Bear in mind that there are a lot of not so “kosher” people out there, who may be just acting as though they are looking for monogamies relationship, but in reality they just looking to play. For many of us, who had encountered many different experiences with dating and relationship, some of these typicall characters are really easy to recognize and detect a mile away. And if you know better, you would stay away from this type of people, and not fall in to the dreading situation of being manipulated.

I do, however, believe that even those kinds of people, somewhere deep inside are really looking for a companion and the love match, but perhaps are afraid of the intimacy and commitment.

As a common mistake I find, that both men and women do not give each other a chance for many reasons: the guys in fear of being rejected; and the girls in a fear of embarrassment. Let’s not give up a hope or the motivation to meet the right person!

It may happened in the place you’d never expected to meet; let’s be a little open minded (not everyone is so wrong for you!).

Bear in mind that there are a lot of not so “kosher” people out there, and by now you can already recognize those a mile away. Even those kinds of people, deep inside, really looking for a companion and the love match.

Good luck!

Tanya Wiseman

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